Self Belief And Taking Action
Are you stuck in a loop searching for that elusive “magic pill” for confidence or happiness?
Good news: this episode breaks down the raw, undiluted truth you’ve been waiting for.
Learn how to build unshakeable confidence—not from empty mantras or feel-good one-liners—but from actionable, meaningful steps.
Let’s dive in, and I’ll show you what I mean.
Yesterday, someone asked me, “How can I truly believe in myself to take action? I’ve read all the books and said the affirmations, and I’m still struggling to believe in myself.”
And I found myself saying, “Hey, when you figure that out, let me know!”
Because here’s the kicker: Who said you have to fully believe in yourself to take the first step?
This notion that self-belief is a mandatory ticket to action is a myth.
The reality is, especially when you’re trying something new, you might not initially have that self-belief.
But the absence of belief doesn’t mean you can’t take action. The beauty of it is the action itself often generates belief.
The more you do, the more you achieve, which fuels your belief in yourself.
Now, a musician I once knew wanted to get gigs at local venues.
This person had the talent but needed more confidence that venue owners would book them.
They were waiting to feel 100% sure of their abilities before making that crucial first step of reaching out to venue owners.
But here’s what they decided to do: Instead of waiting for that elusive 100% certainty, they just started sending demo tapes and emails.
At first, they didn’t hear back or received polite declines.
Yet, each time they reached out, they refined their pitch, improved their demo, and became more adept at selling their skills.
And guess what? They eventually started landing gigs.
Initially, The venues were small, but each successful booking fueled their confidence.
Sure, having complete faith in their abilities could have sped up the process, but it was by no means necessary for them to get started.
So, the moral of this story is similar: You don’t have to be entirely convinced that you’ll succeed to make that initial move.
The act of doing and taking action not only improves your skills but also builds the confidence and belief you crave.
It’s about getting the ball rolling; perfection, or even complete confidence, can come later.
A Humble Beginning in Life Coaching
When I started my journey as a life coach, all I had was a certification, a second-hand laptop, and an earnest desire to help people change their lives.
I named my “office” The Sanctuary, even though it was a quiet corner of my living room with a folding chair and a makeshift desk.
I remember scanning online forums and community boards, leaving comments and offering free consultations, doubting if anyone would take me seriously.
I questioned whether I had the ability to guide others when I was filled with uncertainties myself.
However, I didn’t let that stop me. I started offering free 30-minute coaching sessions.
The first few calls were awkward, with uncomfortable silences and generic advice. But I persisted.
And then, I met Sarah—a client battling severe self-esteem issues.
We worked together, and after a few sessions, she told me she’d landed a job she’d thought was out of her reach.
Witnessing her transformation fortified her belief in herself and solidified my faith in my capabilities as a life coach.
The moment I realized this, everything shifted. You can meditate on being a good coach, read all the self-help books, and even talk a good talk.
But nothing makes you believe in your ability more than impacting someone else’s life for the better.
And that comes only through taking consistent, meaningful action.
It was a powerful lesson that I carry with me to this day.
You don’t have to fully believe in yourself to make a difference in someone’s life; you just need to start.
Belief, confidence, and expertise come from action and the willingness to stand up, even when you’re unsure, and say, “Yes, I can help you.”
And so, the wheel turns. Each success boosts your confidence and helps build a practice you can be proud of.
It’s not about waiting for self-assurance to magically appear; it’s about taking that initial leap of faith and allowing your actions to fuel your belief in yourself.
The Blueprint to Genuine Self-Belief: No Magic Pill Required
So many people ask me if there’s an easy way, like a magic pill, that can boost my self-confidence.
If you’re looking for a quick hack to boost your self-confidence, stop.
It doesn’t exist.
Real confidence emerges from taking real action, and there are five things you need to do along with it.
Begin with Clarity
The first is beginning with clarity.
Before all else, define your desires. What do you want in life?
Once that’s clear, outline the steps you need to take to get there.
The Importance of Consistency
The second is consistency.
Instead of obsessing over immediate results, focus on consistently performing your identified actions.
With time and persistence, you’ll notice a change: a newfound belief in your abilities.
You’re Your Own Builder
Third, be your own builder.
Contrary to popular belief, a confident person isn’t born with self-assurance.
Confidence is constructed brick by brick, each brick representing a different accomplishment or milestone in life.
Embrace the Powerhouse Approach
Fourth is what I call the powerhouse approach.
While meditation, reading, or affirmations aren’t mandatory, they can be powerful catalysts when combined with action.
Imagine them as the fuel that boosts your engine, propelling you towards success more rapidly.
Be Your Own Cheerleader
Fifth is being your own cheerleader.
Learn to be your own biggest supporter.
Celebrate your wins, however small, and don’t be too hard on yourself.
The key is to treat yourself the way you’d treat someone you deeply care for.
The Real Secret to Confidence
So, if you’re wondering how to believe in yourself truly, the answer is straightforward: consistent action.
Adding positive self-talk and mental training can make the journey less strenuous and more rewarding.